Happiness vs. Serenity: a big difference?
Often we equate happiness with serenity but their origin, meaning and purpose are totally different.
To achieve serenity, it is important to differentiate them.
Happiness (end of XVI c= hap= “good fortune/luck “ is a genetically programmed, ego driven, genuine and transient emotional reaction whereas serenity is a state of mind that must be learned. Big difference!
In our secular Western society the search for ongoing happiness is a must whereas the search of serenity sounds to be limited to few mystic and spiritual weird people. Live must be exiting and good for us because we deserve it! This is how marketing genius are manipulating us. If y we are not happy all the time, there is something wrong about because we should be able to be happy all the time. New car, new house, new job, new partner, new cruise, new adventure, etc....
The four main characteristics of happiness are:
There is, in this subconscious process, some sort of addiction where we are looking for more and more of new stuff, new fun, new excitement to achieve and maintain the same level of happiness.
What about serenity?
Latin origin: = peaceful/calm. Serenity is a state of mind that can be learned and practiced. It is not a transient emotion triggered by the outside world and fuelled by our ego.
Serenity is permanent inner peace like equanimity. Meditation or contemplation are the great tools to achieve it.
You discover your innate serenity in the following 4 gates:
2) When you are not chasing for more and more new stuff all the time.
3) When you become aware of the notion of selflessness, enabling us to experience harmony with others and nature.
4)Also, serenity is achieved when you realize that:
Nothing last including yourself and
We do not control to much of anything, therefor, the perception of controlling induces anxiety for fear of losing that control.
You are not a permanent, unique, independent, self-intrinsic and separate self entity but, on the
contrary, totally interconnected and depend of your surrounding and the universe.
Past and future are fictional and the ways used by the mind to fool you since you exist only in
he present moment.
Our mind is a wonderful instrument but also our most very deceptive friend as the main source of
suffering coming not only from our ego but also from our mindset in which we are stuck.
Our thoughts are just that: thoughts. They do exist but, being just illusions, they are not real.
We trust them only when we need them for decisions.
We are not what your thoughts are telling you but something far deeper.
Our true, genuine and innate self has nothing to do with your acquire, artificial, societal self
Conclusion: There is nothing wrong to look for happiness and fun. No one wants to be masochistic. The message is to realize the limitation of extrinsic happiness such, but, rather, to develop serenity.