Happiness vs. Serenity. Is there a difference?
Too often we equate happiness with serenity but their origin, meaning and purpose are totally different. To achieve serenity, it is important to differentiate them.
Happiness (end of XVI c= hap= “good fortune/luck “ is a genetically programmed, ego driven, genuine and transient emotional reaction whereas serenity is a state of mind that must be learned. Big difference!
In our secular Western society the search for ongoing happiness is a must whereas the search of serenity sounds to be limited to few esoteric, mystic and spiritual weird people.
Live must be exiting and good for you because you deserve it! This is how marketing genius are manipulating us.
If y we are not happy all the time, there is something wrong about because we should be able to be happy all the time. New car, new house, new job, new partner, new cruise, new adventure, etc....
The four main characteristics of happiness are:
There is, in this subconscious process, some sort of addiction where we are looking for more and more of new stuff, new fun, new excitement to achieve and maintain the same level of happiness.
What about serenity?
Serenity ( Latin= peaceful/calm) is a permanent state of mind that can be learned and practiced. It is not a transient emotion.
Serenity is already inside our true, genuine self but totally buried by our ego-driven mind.
Serenity is permanent inner peace like equanimity . Meditation or contemplation are the tools to achieve it.
You discover your innate serenity in many ways:
2) When you are not chasing for more and more new stuff all the time.
3) When you become aware of the notion of selflessness, enabling us to experience harmony with others and nature.
4)Also, serenity is achieved when, sooner or later, you realize that:
contrary, totally interconnected and depend of your surrounding and the universe.
the present moment.
suffering coming not only from our ego but also our mindset in which we are stuck.
We trust them only when we need them for decisions.
Our true, genuine and innate self has nothing to do with your acquire, artificial, societal self.
There is nothing wrong to look for happiness and fun. No one wants to be masochistic. The message is to realize the limitation of extrinsic happiness such as its transient nature and, rather, to develop serenity.