About our feelings: Zen point of view
Most of our negative thought/feeling is caused by 2 things:
How is it possible?
Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry, expectations, hope, and even all forms of fear about x,y, and z are caused by being too much in the mind-made fictional future, and not enough in the present moment.
Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, memories, and all forms of unforgiveness about x,y, and z are caused by being too much in the past, and not enough in the present moment.
This is how our mind is playing this fictional game with us in almost 99% of the time.
If you don’t pay attention you will never win that game.
So: I am proposing to use this simple algorithm:
1- Is your current negative feeling based on a factual or fictional event?
2- If factual/concrete event:
Do you have control of this fact? If yes, go for it to fix it
You don’t have any control: pay attention to your feelings in a mindful way, accept them,
and let it go
3- If virtual event:
Pay attention to your feelings in a mindful way, and let it go. Repeat if necessary.